The authors of Bare Knuckle People Management know successful people management is easier than a lot of managers make it. Kulisek and O’Neil’s no-nonsense insights are not only amusing but on the mark. If you are a manager looking to improve the performance of your team, someone who just became a manager or think you would like to become a manager, you will be glad you read this book.

—Paul Mott, Head of Club Services, Major League Soccer

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So Pissed Off Right Now

For time to time I receive a thought-provoking communication that compels me to comment about it publicly.  Just yesterday, in fact, I received the carefully-scripted anonymous letter below, and, after re-reading it several times to absorb the content, thought it warranted its own blog post.

You see kids, officials who think they can walk over my nameless and faceless Westchester County resident peers and get away with it have quite another thing coming!

My professional and personal thoughts follow the letter below…

  1. County Resident:  Thanks for writing on this important issue.  Be certain that I am doing everything in my power to put an end to officials having personal co-worker opinions on their computers.  What he did is undoubtedly hurtful and disrespectful, but I hope this doesn’t cause you to become distrustful and resentful of all men.  I, for one, am a man who has never stored a personal co-worker opinion on my computer without such co-worker’s express written permission.  Ever.  I have plenty of other faults – but that isn’t one of them.  (And please, don’t call me Director.  No one calls me that.  Your Excellency is more common and appropriate.  Asshole has been known to work as well, but is more typically used by my wife after I’ve had too much to drink.)
  2. Ms. Meyers:  County Resident is right – you should absolutely NOT have to tolerate this.  Call me if you need some tips on how to avoid tolerating it.  I co-wrote a book called Bare Knuckle People Management (available on Amazon and in bookstores everywhere), and I think this falls squarely in my range of expertise.
  3. Staff:  County Resident is right again – you absolutely must retain a non-personal focus.  Otherwise, how the hell are we supposed to get anything done around here?
  4. Unnamed Official:  You ought to be ashamed of yourself.  For all I know, I voted for you.  Oh, if I could only have that vote back!  And I’m quite sure my hard-earned tax dollars help pay for your salary.  Ooh, that makes me spitting mad!  I shudder to think how many personal opinions of other co-workers you have on that damn computer of yours.  Clean up your act, buddy, or I will figure out who you are and call you out by name!

So there you have it, people.  Always happy to perform community service, particularly when it involves someone so close to home.  Keep those concerns coming, and in the meantime, Keep Swinging!

About Sean O’Neil

Sean O’Neil considers himself a workplace and team dynamics expert (which is really a ploy to sell books, management training, and speaking engagements). He is also Principal and CEO of Bare Knuckle People Management (, a sales and management training firm with clients that include the National Basketball Association, Major League Soccer, News Corporation, First Data, ADP, Royal Bank of Scotland, and the Oakland Raiders. Sean and John Kulisek co-authored Bare Knuckle People Management: Creating Success with the Team You Have – Winners, Losers, Misfits and All, which is due to be published in May 2011. Sean has contributed to or been featured in, among others, The New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, Selling Power Magazine,, HR Morning Magazine, Leadership Excellence Magazine, Training Magazine, the Sports Business Journal, and Incentive Magazine. Sean appears regularly on radio and television programs, mostly about workplace communications and management issues.  He can also frequently be seen pacing the sidelines of a youth team he’s coaching.

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  1. by Uncle Lou on

    Still a pisser Sean, love your flambouyant but humble style, still enjoy my O Bats paraphenalia with the fondest of memories. Still playing ball, arm is dead, bat hot, blood flows and heart beats, plus the smiles still come easy, love you and all you incredible o’neils, (your mom was so great in Fla) There’s probably no spell check here and if you think I’d look anything up????fuck it


    • by Sean O'Neil on

      Thanks for the note, Uncle Lou! I love it! All of the O’Neil siblings agree that we owe you BIG TIME for taking Dad down to Florida. (Incidentally, Dad went on and on about what a fun time he had with you.) Would love to see you when we do our book signing in Newburgh on Thursday, June 2 at Barnes & Noble – your signed copy is ON ME! Hope all is well. I think of you often. Thanks again for your response. (Spell check is for non-believers.)


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