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Coaching a professional basketball team is not different from managing a team of corporate employees. You have stars, utility players and bench warmers, all of whom thrive when their coach tailors his approach to their unique talents, weaknesses and contributions to the team. Bare Knuckle People Management speaks directly to managers who have been frustrated by the notion that all employees need to be treated equally and with kids’ gloves.

—Mike D’Antoni, Head Coach of the New York Knicks

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Walking the Vulnerability Tightrope

I am sitting here like a total geek reflecting on vulnerability – yes, that terribly anxiety-provoking state of being exposed to emotional injury.

Specifically, I’m reflecting on those peculiar sorts who bring vulnerability on themselves by putting themselves “out there” and thereby expose themselves to their own emotional injury.

You

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Final Exam Season – Battle of Wills

Final ExamWe recently wrapped up final exams in the O’Neil household.

My twin boys, Matt and Ryan, at 14 and on the cusp of high school, are suddenly far more interested in girls and their high school basketball careers than their grade point average. The boys’ mother, my dear wife Erin, …

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Home Cookin’

homeWhen I was a young adult just making my way in the world, periodic moments of isolation, anxiety or uncertainty made me nostalgic for home.  Those were the days when my childhood home still seemed perfectly idyllic.

I’d reach back for a comforting set of memories clustered around my family’s

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Mutual Belittlement

belittlingSpoke with a college friend the other day who was updating me on his recent divorce settlement that was nearly final. It had been one of those typical bloody divorce proceedings – kids involved, publicly drawn out, and permanently damaging to all.

My friend – I’ll call him Bob –

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Team Unity (or Something)

wiffleI played in a wiffle ball tournament with my 13-year-old twin sons this past weekend.  The tournament was set on an artificial turf field on a soupy end-of-summer day.  Team O’Neil decided it would play in the tournament’s “competitive” division.  We were excited.  We’d played plenty of wiffle ball in

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